Cut the BS......

Each morning I make my bed and act like Oprah herself is going to come up my stairs and criticize me on my lack of pillow fluff and tan spray stains on my sheets. Which, I know she won't, she has no idea who I am yet alone where I live.

Yet, still, I tuck those corners in and place six throw pillows on the bed and stand back in admiration of my work, "She's gonna love it" I say to myself.

That is the first task of "perfectionism" for my day. Oh, I have many more, and as much as I hate to admit, I do this all the time. With, almost, everything. Its draining, yet I cannot seem to stop myself. Let's say it's my "toxic trait".

Are you like this too? Maybe not with your bed, but with other things? Its exhasuting.....right? But why do we do it? I read somewhere the reasons are childhood rooted from being raised in a home that was strict or built on how well you did something. IDK....

What I do know is, I got to cut the B.S! I am not perfect and nor are you, so what's the point in tucking in those sheet corners with military precision, Oprah isn't coming? If my first task is creating perfection at 6 a.m., then I have not set myself up for success and frankly, a realistic stage for the day.

So, what do you do? I started with small "let goes". I let the corners out, then kicked it up a notch and didn't add all the pillows one day, to one day, I completely forgot to MAKE THE BED....

I know, I was blown away when I saw it too.

In short, start small in your journey to kill the perfectionist beast. The beast has been growing in you for a long time, it's going to take time to suffocate it.

Step One, see the problem.

Step Two, own the problem.

Step Three, take action in small steps.

Step Four, stay the path.